The Smart Way to Handle Having a Crush When You’re Married
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If you’re finding yourself married with a crush, I have some expert advice for you today not only to help you work through what you’re feeling – but to also encourage growth in your marriage!įeelings just happen sometimes… it’s very important to know how to handle yourself and your relationship when crushes happen in order to protect yourself, your relationship, and your integrity. However, smart, self-aware people in good, committed relationships need to not follow those feelings but rather handle them maturely and with wisdom. Particularly, in long-term relationships where the zing of early-stage romantic love has faded into a steady, warm attachment, the part of us that longs for exciting, romantic love may be tickled awake by the presence of an interesting new other. We have crushes because we’re living, feeling human beings who are designed to fall in love. Crush-y feelings don’t need to mean anything about your marriage or your spouse, or about the person you have a crush on. In fact, people in happy, healthy, committed relationships can still develop fluttery feelings for attractive others. Believe it or not, having a crush may not mean anything at all. It also is not a reflection of your marriage. Having a crush on someone else when you’re married doesn’t mean that you’re a bad person. A crush, aka, “Romantic Infatuation” can happen with anyone who you spend time with and who has attractive or, interestingly, anxiety-producing qualities.īut what does it mean if you have feelings for someone other than your spouse? Hey, it happens and as a couples counselor and expert marriage counselor, I know that married people (even happily married people) are also human and as such, are vulnerable to developing crushes on attractive others. So, you are married but you have a crush on someone else.
Music Credits: Johnny Powers, “Long Blonde Hair” MARRIED WITH A CRUSH? What To Do When You’re Having Feelings for Someone Else While Married… The Love, Happiness & Success Podcast with Dr. What to Do When You Are Married and Have a Crush on Someone Else
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